As you can see by the title of this post, it certainly is a question. Apparently some really narrow minded Muslims think that if you get education of the duniya, you won’t have deen and if you get deen education your duniya is crappy. Oh and not to mention if you get duniya education you most probably pray crappy (yeah right).
Some ppl, like my father, think that women don’t need to go to college because according to him women shouldn’t be working and if they go to college, they’ll get a job and neglect the house. So sad because I don’t want to be a nobody and want to study Psychology. Oh and who says you have to get a job if you’ve got an education?
So yeah, yesterday when I asked him if I could sign up for dual enrollment at the local community college, I got a negative answer and perhaps will again. And so I asked him what was so wrong about it and got into a nice half an hour debate and obviously won at the end because he wouldn’t answer my questions at the end. Or couldn’t hehe… mostly like always.
And I realized that most Muslims think like that, mostly desi. No wait, mostly TABLIGHI! Who always make it sound like going to college and studying duniya is Oh So HARAM! Always going on about how what you do in the duniya is of no avail and whatever you do for the akhirah is preserved… Well HELLO, I’ve got to learn both so I can be an effective Dae’e! Yeah, daddy says be a dae’e, you don’t needa go to college.. hmph!
Who says it’s impossible to be an outstanding Muslim along with being an awesome student?! Why is it that he wants my brother to be something big but when it comes to me and my sister, it really doesn’t matter, hey we’re girls! We’re just here to get married have kids, work like a donkey, and that’s life 
But hey, I’m going to keep my spirits high and not care about what people say to put me down with their low standards and one day show them what I’m REALLY made of haha… May Allah grant as Jannatul Firdous and bless us in the duniya as well (with a sound mind, which most people lack).
Anyways, any suggestions on how to convince my dad?
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haha nice post, so very typical, my parents are like that too
“faique, you going to grow up and have to support your wife and dont forget us too, your sisters, theyll just get married off to someone, ur the one who has to do good in school”
haha. so soo soooo typical.
trust me, were on the same side of the boat.
any advice? umm…no i dont know how to tackle this ideaology.
PS. WE ARE DESI TOO.
haha
sorry i have no advice,
u shud check out my blog sometime:
http://themuslimkid.blogspot.com/
Comment by The Muslim Kid November 10, 2008 @ 12:07 am-The Muslim Kid-
Not trying to demean your father’s decision, but this is really sad
I feel your pain from the bottom of my heart.
Honestly, I think for Muslims it’s even more important to receive an education because 1)It provides more opportunities for spreading Islam (eg. I always try to clear misconceptions about Islam with my classmates) 2) We need more Muslim leaders, decision makers, etc. who can go out in the world and make a difference. One of the reasons why Islamophobia is so prevalent today is because there aren’t enough Muslims in the spotlight who can correct the tarnished image of Muslims.
As far as the argument about women not studying, that is not true. Remember one woman who is educated contributes more to society than any man because she teaches her children directly. There are so many Hadith relating to the education of women… don’t want to misquote any, but have you heard of the one in which the Holy Prophet (PBUH) promised that a father who educates and brings up his daughters well will be very close to the Holy Prophet (PBUH) on the Day of Judgement?
Today I think it is really important for women to be educated because, other than opening your mind to new things, you are being trained to work. Even if your husband/father has a problem with women working (which is quite ridiculous… Hadhrat Khadijah RA was a businesswoman), you might sometime fall in some unfortunate circumstances in which you have to work. Wouldn’t you prefer earning yourself rather than being dependent on handouts?
Just my two cents
Comment by coco42 March 3, 2009 @ 5:22 am